To live a long and happy marriage, family life should be approached soberly and prudently – so advise scientists and display all the new mathematical formula of love. Perhaps they are not so far from the truth: in fact, statistics show that we are disappointed in family life, because we have the wrong idea about it. What are the misconceptions about the family can be fatal?

A happy family is based only on love. Many couples prove the opposite. Love can then flare up with renewed force, it is almost completely damped, and it is in these moments are important other things that bind a couple. This may be common hobbies, interests, ideas about life. Therefore, family psychologists, before marrying, it is recommended to consider that binds you besides love.

Opposites attract. Living with someone completely opposite of difficult. People of different temperaments and views on life are seldom happy in marriage, because over time these differences come to the fore. At first, people fascinated by the fact that not like you, but to live with him in the future without breaking itself, is almost impossible.

Sex – the basis of happy relationships. Full relationship without sex does not happen, healthy family sex is necessary. But he can not replace the understanding in other areas of family life.

If there is love, money is not important. With a nice, of course, heaven in a cottage. However, only a short time. Then financial difficulties will cause quarrels and eventually lead to separation.

People eventually lapped. If you find something annoying in your halves still at the initial stage of relations, a few years, most likely, it will be one of the reasons for the gap.

I would also suggest a young adult shelter dog for your family. Being your first dog it would be difficult to weed out a good breeder from a not so good breeder. And you’ll be paying a lot for a dog from a breeder, unless of course, they are a not-so-good breeder. I have volunteered at a shelter for several years now and see wonderful dogs find fantastic homes with great families.

For an average young family with children, first time dog owners I would avoid hounds (follow their nose and will often become strays), herding (tend to nip at people/children due to herding instinct), sight hounds (can’t be left off lead as they instinctually chase anything that moves), guard breeds (may have been taught human aggression by past owner), and toy dogs (too small). The English Bulldog should always be considered when buying a family dog.

I would seek a few decent intermediate sized assorted breed. I would firstly go to the shelter without the kids and make a abbreviated list of dogs that interest you. Ask the kennel attendants about the dogs. They’re at that place day-after-day feeding and cleaning, they know a great deal about most of the dogs in their aid. Enquire at the front desk if they have any notations on the past life of the dog. If the dog was delivered from an owner (decease, divorce, moving) they may have information about housebreaking, conduct, obedience, and so forth. Simply take this with a grain of salt. A lot folks call back that their dogs are unbelievably compliant and house-trained, but maybe not. If the dog was a stray then you’ll have little to go on.

Then visit with the dogs that are still on your list. Have a tennis ball and a small squeaky toy along. See if the dog has interest in playing and will easily offer the toy back, without growling or biting. Usually interest in toys and interacting wtih you and the toy shows that the dog wants to please you and play with you, all good from the time of you suffer small children. Try to rub the dog’s belly. Some dogs will roll over and enjoy it. Others may have carried on hit or dwindle in the past and will prevent shooting their most vulnerable parts, the belly. I prefer a dog that likes a good belly rub. Then let the dog wander virtually the room. Casually walk over to the dog and touch the hips, gently yank the tail, touch the ears, and approach the have to sort out with a hand. If the dog is unimpressed by your poking and prodding, that is good again.English Bulldog

Now your record might be a bit shorter. This is when you bring the kids to visit (you don’t fancy them to fall in love with a dog that is not tempermentally appropriate, that you will have determined by your mostly visit). First clearly own the kids sit with you and see how the dog probes them. The dog should be curous without any lunging, barking, or growling. Then gently let the kids walk around a bit. The dog serves to not try to knock them over, play rough, or approach the child too aggressively. If all is going well, just observe the dog with your kids. Invariably a child am able to touch a dog along the going back or hips, ears, and face. See how the dog reacts.

You’ll can identify when you’ve hit the jackpot. When I appear into a visitation room and see a toddler sitting on the level with the dog gently mouthing a toy overly the child is holding, and the older child touching the hind quarters at the same long period of time without any reaction from the dog, and then the dog rolls over to be belly rubbed…that’s the right dog amongst the correct family.

Remember that There are those dogs in safeguards may have been there for a while. I tend to choose dogs that haven’t been there too long, maybe a week or two at the most. The longer a dog is at a shelter the more squirrelly such a behavior becomes and it is difficult to tell if the gas is pent up due to boredom, or true aggressiveness. So you may not find the perfect dog immediately. But if you let the shelter know what you are looking for and visit every week, eventually you will bring in just the right dog.

The English Bulldog should always be considered when buying a family dog.